Blog entry by James Cook

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by James Cook - Thursday, 20 January 2022, 12:16 AM
Anyone in the world

On being the servant-leader in my relationship

The unexpected benefits of surrendering control

Alpha males and the women who love them

Not all men will get it unless you explain

Patience, integrity…and being a little sweet always helps

Girl alpha seeks all man alpha

Too feminine?


My life, my choice

Is she afraid of losing control?

I’ve never actually called it sarging before, but fuck it.  Y’all know what it is.

And if you don’t, there’s always urban dictionary.

This really goes back to day game vs. night game here.

In the past, I never approached much.  This year, when I got into game, I would force myself to go out sarging to bars on Thursday, Friday and Saturday nights, either with wings or solo.

8 months in, and probably a few hundred approaches, and I’m now so comfortable approaching girls in a bar or in night game, that even when I go out with friends without the intent to “sarge”, I’ll still wind up opening at least a set or two.  It’s habit now.

I think somebody said that it was Mystery who said that “at some point, it becomes harder to not play the game than to play.”

I think I’m starting to understand that.  If I take a weekend off and don’t go out, I feel really odd/weird about it, like I didn’t do anything productive that weekend.

I took last weekend off.  I won’t take this weekend off.  I’ll be somewhere, sarging, approaching something.

But, more so than that, I really do want to work on my day game.  I feel like that’s something, I keep saying, but rarely doing.

I’m in a bigger city now, so there’s more opportunity to day game.

About a month ago, when I quit my job, I told myself, I’d hit up coffee shops and work on my resume, study, read books, and basically be on the job hunt.   I also told myself, I’d approach chicks while I was out there doing that.

And,  I haven’t done that.

I get so caught up in what I’m doing, that even though I may notice an occasional cute chick, it’s easy to excuse myself because “I’m busy” or “in the middle of something” and I don’t approach.

What’s the way around this?

I think, I need to go out sarging.   Not every day, but maybe once or twice a week.  For now, I’ll start off with once a week.  I’ll make a sarge day every week.  Like, “Sarging Wednesday” or something, where Wednesday I do nothing but go out and open as many chicks as possible during the day.

I’m basically trying to approach day game the way I approached night game.

When I started, I didn’t go out sarging every night.  I usually just went out once or twice a week.  Occassionally it’d be 3 times a week if I went out Thurs, Fri and Sat.  But, that’s it really.   Even on the weeks I did try another night, like a Sun, or Tues or Wed, I still only went out 3 times a week total to sarge.

The ultimate goal is to be able to open a chick, anytime, anywhere, during normal routine.   But, I’m not there yet.  Most guys aren’t.  That’s a comfort zone that has to be reached somehow.

At this point, I don’t do that, I don’t open girls in the day as part of my normal routine.  I’ve only opened girls in the day, when I went out with the sole intent to open girls that day….. or, “sarging” as you would have it.

Time to do more day time sarging.    So, like I said, one day a week devoted to sarging.  That way I go and really get into it and it’ll give me the opportunity to get into some kind of groove, as I’ll have hours to sarge.

Today is “Sarge Wednesday.”   Wish me luck.